Reality vs. Reality

Reality TV vs. Reality Life

After doing an investigation and research proposal into the human psyche’s fixation on reality television shows, I thought of sharing this as a post on my blog.

These days, majority of the people watch reality shows and the last ten years of South African television history has seen that viewers are spending more of their viewing time watching reality television shows.

Some of you might say: “No, I’m not fixated with reality shows; I just like to watch it.” However, when an episode is missed, people go beyond crazy, and usually people will skip functions, events or even dates just to watch their favourite reality show. Yes, then you already classify as being fixated, if not obsessed.


Fear Factor - fixated, if not obsessed?

Fixated with the Kardashians, if not obsessed?









I mean who wants to miss out on shows like Master Chef, Survivor, Idols, The Kardasthians, and Fear Factor etc. It’s a craving that makes you hunger for more. Fiction and plots soon began leaving people cold, and the public became hungry for more reality TV shows.

Reality programmes and shows give the viewers a version of reality and reality television manipulates and constructs what you as the audience then view as ‘reality.’ In some way, reality television fulfils a certain desire many humans have. We want to watch these shows, even if they are somewhat authentic, but yet entertaining.

Not everyone base their reality on the reality shows they view, but majority of the population does, including me (I won’t say how I do, its embarrassing). However, reality television is sometimes stimulating and allows you to imaginary participate; sometimes imagine yourself within the programs.

I am sure that most of us enjoy our reality shows. We just can’t live without it!

Editor: Roelien Zwart

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How do you step from the top of a 100-foot pole?

“You who sit on the top of a 100 foot pole,
Although you have entered the Way, it is not yet genuine
Take a step from the top of the pole
And the entire world becomes your body”

Stepping from that 100-foot pole could be difficult!

According to Gary R. McClain and Eve Adamson’s ‘The complete idiot’s guide to Zen living’, they refer to stepping off the hundred-foot pole as a koan which is a wonderful metaphor for Zen practices. They state that climbing a pole is very hard work, just like contemplating a koan, meditating and following the Zen precepts. But what do you do when you get to the top? It takes a lot of practice, intellectual understanding, rules and techniques to get to the top. This can be linked to our lives and practices, that if you grasped the truth beyond logic and the material world, you can easily step off the top of the pole, because beyond the pole lies a universe of beyond thinking and something much bigger than the sky you see and truth as apparent as daylight.

I want to link the concept of the 100-foot pole to planning for crises in life. Some of you might ask, how does the two links to each other? Well, when climbing a 100-foot pole had to get you to plan on how you will get to the top, but did you plan on how you are going to get down? I guess not! After viewing the sky and mountains from the top of the pole, you realise that in some way you have to get down. Thoughts of falling down, breaking a part of your body, probably killing yourself runs through your mind as you are devastated  and realised that you didn’t prepare a plan on how you might get down the pole!

If you don’t know how to step from the pole – it’s by then you plan for a crises and start thinking of possible ideas. It also means taking risks. Somewhere in life we plan to do things, but we always forget to make a plan in how we are going to turn around and taking a few steps back.

Plan correctly; thinking, deciding, strategising and rethinking your options are important. A good crises plan accomplishes more. You should also seek to maximise every possible opportunity in life. Whenever you have reached the top of the pole, you should enjoy every moment of live and capture the beauty of the view wilderness. Once you have stepped down from the 100-foot pole, it may be a disappointment and hitting the ground can be tough and painful. However, pick yourself up again and continue climbing the pole – just remember to plan your way down! Things will be much easier after that!


Editor: Roelien Zwart

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Right brain versus left brain

Left versus right brain

If you have ever wondered why you act the way you do, the answer may lie in which side of your brain you tend to use more. It’s said that right-brain people have different skills and preferences than those who are left-brain people. Well, I’m definitely a brain-brain person, because I tend to think more creatively and act upon things, and that is also why I am studying Public Relations! I think that Public Relations should at all times be a right-brain. Left- brain people belong in accounting or even in engineering.

So right brain vs. left brain – what’s the difference?

The human brain is a complex organ responsible for intelligence, senses, movement, and behaviour. The brain is quite an amazing organ and just imagines how people would have been without any brains… we would’ve been monkeys without brains. Lol!

We all have a right and left brain, just some people uses more of the one side than the other side of their brain. The right and the left brain each performs different functions and communicates information with each other. If you hear someone say “I’m a right-brained or a left-brained individual.” Well this is actually called brain dominance.

How do you know if you are a right-brained?

Well here are some clues:

  • Right-brain people have characteristics such as being creative, the ability to see patterns, spatial awareness, and the understanding of how things relate to one another in different contexts.
  • You may also find that you are good at recognizing faces, places, and objects.
  • Right-brains think “Out-of-the-box”.
  • Art, including the ability to draw, paint, sculpt, etc.
  • Imaginative thinking.
  • Music, including the ability to play instruments with ease or to recognize a song melody and play it back upon “hearing it”.

How do you know if you are a left-brained?

Well here are some clues:

  • Left-brain people have characteristics such as the gift for language, analytical skills, and mathematical concepts such as time and sequence.
  • You may find you are good with letters, numbers, and words.
  • Language skills including reading, writing, and speaking
  • Maths
  • Logic and reasoning
  • Science

Gosh, I think to be a Public Relations Practitioner, you should be a little bit of both brains. Because we have to think outside the box, have creative thinking; be good with letters, language, writing and speaking.

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We are what we do!

This is so true, because we are what we do and we do what we are. To take myself as an example, I am currently studying Public Relations and the more I do it, the more I get into it and the more I become what I do.

You actually start living and start doing things in your personal capacity. So for example, being a Public Relation in my career I have to communicate effectively, think strategic out of the box, work hard, meet deadlines and the list goes on. It made me start being a Public Relation in my personal life too. I start communicating to my friends more effectively, which they think is weird. When ever I page through a magazine, I look out of things like publicity, angles of stories and writing styles.

I always think to myself that I’m actually supposed to scale down from my day work when arrive home or go out and relax. However, it just comes naturally and I can’t stop it. I’m a Public Relation at all times and at all levels of life. We are what we do!

We are all different humans and we base our lives all on different things, but just remember that what you do don’t take control of your life and change the way you are.

We are what we do!

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St. Patrick’s Day – top ‘o the weekend… lets make it count!

St. Patrick’s Day – top ‘o the weekend… lets make it count!
We have the green light.

Nothing can stop the party on St. Patrick’s Day. Not only does the holiday fall on a Saturday, but the forecast calls for sunny skies and warm temperatures.

Now,MahoningValleylads and lassies will party on this day under any conditions, but getting St. Pat’s on a spring like weekend is like finding a pot of gold.

Wearing green, eating green food and even drinking green beer, is said to commemorate St Patrick’s use of the shamrock. So be absolutely creative and pull out those green clothes and anything green and put it on. St Patrick’s Day is being celebrated by Irish communities around the world. So let’s party like the Irish do!

This day is also known to be the day to bring luck and the luck might just hit you. We all know that when three-leaf clovers come out, it’s St. Patrick’s Day. By the way, try to find a four-leaf clover and you will be lucky for the rest of your life. (Remember it is not so easy to find it, I tried it once!)

This Irish holiday is always celebrated on March 17th, which is the day that Saint Patrick died. He was a missionary way back in the 4th century who converted the Irish to Christianity

A little bit of history:

Saint Patrick was born around 385 AD in the United Kingdom. His real name is believed to be Maewyn Succat (he took on Patrick, or Patricus, after he became a priest). When he was 16, he was kidnapped by a group of Irish raiders and sold into slavery in Ireland. During his six-year captivity as a shepherd, he began to have religious visions and found strength in his faith. He finally escaped to France and became a priest – and later a bishop. When he was about 60 years old, Saint Patrick returned to Ireland to spread the Christian word. He used the shamrock, which resembles a three-leafed clover, as a metaphor to explain the Christian concept of God (Father, Son and Holy Spirit).

Many of us will ask – why Green? Well Green is associated with St. Patrick’s Day because it is the color of spring, Ireland and the shamrock.

Leprechauns are also associated with St. Patrick’s Day, although the only reason they are is because they’re Irish. Leprechauns are usually mean little creatures – with the exception of the Lucky Charms. I would like to find a Leprechaun, maybe he can give me a pot of gold or some luck, really need some…lol!

This day is also the day of my best friend’s birthday. Happy Birthday Stacey… Hope you receive all the luck in life and a pot of gold. Let’s party like the Irish and make it count!

My best friend, Stacey and I – Happy St, Patrick’s BirthDay – 17 March 2012!
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We are afraid of the wrong things

                  We are afraid to touch the Fear button!

Of course we are afraid of the wrong things. We are humans and there are lots of things to be afraid of these days, such as poverty, crime, pestilence and much more. And if you need any help finding a few more, then just pick up your local daily newspaper, turn on the TV or radio; they are filled with crime, fires, fears and tears.

However, some people really go the extra mile and start getting scared of things that should even be on your list of threatening things.

We are afraid of things such as getting into our cars and driving to work because of the high number of accidents. Never mind that the statistics clearly say that driving a car is much more dangerous than being on a plane, that if we were meant to do anything, that probably did not include racing at 60 miles an hour on asphalt.

Are we afraid of the wrong things? Yes, we are! We are afraid to buy clothes in the stores because we are afraid that we will spend the money and only wear it once. But we should afraid be afraid of corruption and crime. We are afraid to speak up for ourselves and raise our voices because we are afraid of what people will say. But we should be afraid of could happen if we keep quiet.

The examples can be multiplied almost endlessly, but a regular pattern emerges. We tend to be afraid of things that influence us personally. We tend to be overly impressed by personal stories, either recounted by people we know or broadcasted by talk shows and we don’t know how to interpret those stories.

Do we have a defence against being afraid of the wrong things? Can we channel our fears where they belong? We need to focus on the things that we can do and tell ourselves that we can do it and that we shouldn’t be afraid of anything. The real things to be afraid of shouldn’t make us afraid but rather aware and careful. Don’t be afraid of things, beat your fears!

Don’t hind from the things you are afraid of, face them!

Editor: Roelien Zwart

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