As human beings we lie. We lie to other people. We lie to our loves ones, husbands, friends and lovers. We even lie to ourselves. We are all a bunch of pathological liars.
In one of my previous posts I talked about the little voice in your head, telling you what to do and what to say. Well, it sometimes has the ability to tell you to tell lies. We usually tell lies because we do not have any other choice. Sometimes we are stuck in situations and the only thing that can save us is the lie.
It is not the little white lies we tell people like why we are late or why we didn’t pitch for the meeting. I’m talking about the huge lies we tell ourselves. The ones that have a huge effect and that can damage you as a person.
It is said that on an average day people say around 300 to 900 words to themselves. The little voice! Sometimes we tell ourselves things that are actually considered as lies. There are some lies which trick us into believing, by rationalising.
We tell lies like ‘I’m not good enough for someone, and therefore I will never find love’. ‘I will never succeed’ or ‘I’m not smart enough, I will never be able to get it done.’ These are lies we tell ourselves, because we can do things, be strong, be good enough etc.
We live with lies – ‘I simply don’t have the time to do this’. Yes, you have the time. There is always time. To lie to yourself can become a habit. A habit that might be difficult to shake off.
It is important to trust in yourself and be honest to yourself. I came across the following, which is so true:
“Stop lying to yourself that tomorrow will be different. It will be exactly like today unless you do something about it. To take action you need start by being honest with yourself. Our real achievements come from believing in our own values.”
It is a poor idea to lie to yourself. So, stop lying to yourself and change those habits!
Editor: Roelien Zwart
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